Fast forward a few years, Aaron and I were in a good place. While I am skipping forward, those years of healing were a major stepping stone, so they are not unimportant. It is just the details aren’t necessary to recount. Over time, they will come out as needed.
I had lost a lot of weight, and I was on this journey of finding myself. HA – I was never lost, just forgot who I was, and more importantly, I just didn’t accept me. I went back to school and got a degree in Psychology, Minored in Nutrition and Human Performance. I worked full-time, went to school full-time on Aaron’s GI Bill and raised three children. The marriage was still healing but he was a champ, and my family believed in me. It was the first time I ever went back and re-visited my own goals to completion.
After I started Crossfit, and I really began focusing on taking care of me. I got certified as a Nutrition Coach. I was on top of the world, then I lost my job. UMMMM What now.
I got a new job. Then Dallas’ had heart issues and my world fell apart all around me. The stress got to my marriage again – why does stress always threaten the marriage. My doctor and counselor said you have an anxiety disorder – you live in Flight or Fight and you must do something. Here is where I met my friend, Athena, a Coach. She taught me about medidation and slowing down. Leaning into the fear rather than running. Seeing my gremlin/inner critic. Sully differently by acknowledging him rather than trying to squash him, changed how I deal with that voice.
As my anxiety calmed down, I began to what to look towards the future. The girls and I went on a retreat to Greece WITH Athena where we conquered and met fear in the face the entire time. I told her that I really wanted to become a coach. She encouraged me. Work was going well, and Aaron was about to deploy again. I decided I would wait until he got back. Then his deployment was delayed.
On a whim, I applied and got accepted. Now, I had to talk to Aaron about the financial part of it. Not only did he back me, he went as my guest to the part 1 of in-person. Guys we grew in ways unimaginable. I went through the next several months focusing on my coaching education. On the last day that I would see Aaron in the states, I submitted my final requirement to become certified. We enjoyed our time in San Antonio and tried to forget it.
I was certified shortly after, I received the email and was officially a coach. I began my business while he was deployed. My life began to evolve – working was growing and getting stressful. I was managing it all, then my Iron bottomed out, and I ended up sick. Aaron returned and the bickering began. Then COVID HIT. I took a break from everything and once again focused on my family.
As I focused on family again, we once again worked on ourselves AND found out who we are. As we found so many years ago, we are better together. We went back to those this skills we learned all those years ago. We got in a strong place again.
I got promoted at work. Then in January of this year, I may a bold remark. I am going to keep my career AND build my coaching practice. Before I jumped in, I decided I would do it properly. I am adding Reiki to my profile as well as Energy Clearing. I have the ability to see Spirits and help them cross over. I decided if I am going to be a coach, I MUST embrace all of me. Aaron doesn’t necessarily believe in ghosts, but he doesn’t question my gifts and he is on board with my endeavor.
So that is the story of how I became a coach. It was a long and twisting road with a lot of heartache and just as much laughter.